Facebook Pages for Bereaved Parents

There’s a common sentiment amidst the loss community that we have a responsibility (and opportunity!) to help those who are just beginning their journey through grief. Facebook pages are a great route to do this. Some serve as communities, resource centers, or even just memorials of loved ones. I have compiled a list of my favorite Facebook pages for bereaved parents. Each of these are pages that I have followed for a while and feel like may be of help[Read more]

To the Grieving Mother on Her Baby’s Due Date

I am so sorry. Big deal, right? Everyone is sorry. I can’t tell you when it will get easier. It doesn’t. But I can tell you this: you are doing enough. Some people will never know the strength it can take just to open your eyes in the morning, but we do. If that is the only thing you can bring yourself to do today then please understand you have already gone above and beyond what anyone should expect of you. You’re supposed[Read more]

Powerful Quotes for Pregnancy After Loss

Powerful Quotes for Pregnancy after Loss | The Fun Part

One of the hardest things to do after any great pain is opening up. As humans our natural response to pain is to recoil, to pull back, to hide. There is no pain that compares to the heartache of losing someone you love, especially your child. So when your rainbow comes along, even if they are wanted, planned, prayed for, it can feel easier to recoil. To ration your love in little pieces. Or, to withhold it entirely. To keep your hopes low until[Read more]

Bittersweet: A Letter to My Child with Wings

My sweet baby, How do I tell him? Do I ever explain that he is only here because you are not? He will surely notice. Even now, every time I look at him I search for you. How much worse will it be when I find myself looking past his eyes, trying to find some small piece of you inside of him to hold onto. I desperately want for you to be him, just you sent back to us. Your first trip[Read more]

Facing My Fears: Writing in the Good Times

Facing my fears: writing in the good times | The Fun Part

It’s been a while, I know. In February when we got that positive test, I could feel it setting in. Happiness. Along with it came something I never expected. My ability to write was essentially paralyzed. During the next two months, I spent hours sitting at the computer trying to string words together. Increasingly I had less and less to show for the time I was putting in. I was terrified to open up about our life. What if I jinxed us?[Read more]

#StartAsking

Today marks the first day of Resolve’s National Infertility Awareness  Week. This year’s theme is #StartAsking. 1 in 8 couples will have difficulty in getting pregnant or sustaining pregnancy. 1 in 8 is more than just a number: It’s me, it may be you. It is our friends, our family, and our children. Now is the time to #startasking. To start asking for support To start asking for treatment To start asking for insurance coverage To start asking for reproductive health[Read more]

3 Ways Miscarriages Changed My Marriage

The moment I saw those two lines for the very first time. It hit me. Love. Waves of love. I would have died for my child then and there. I didn’t need to meet them. I didn’t need to know who they would be or what they would accomplish. That was my baby, my child. The one we had dreamed about, prayed for. It isn’t the same moment for everyone, but for us, it was immediate.

Our New Normal, the Nursery Box, and Other Updates

Today is one month since Button was born. Mr. Man is the only person who’s noticed. For everyone else, life has carried on. His death was just a blip, a bump in the road. February is a new month! There are other things to be excited about. Be happy.  I tried, really, I did. I failed. Yesterday I took a pregnancy test. There was a smudge of a line. I’m now pretty sure it was a dye run. We bought[Read more]

Don’t Offer Me Your Kid

Don't Offer Me Your Kid

People can say a lot of stupid things, especially when they’re uncomfortable. Fertility struggles, grief, real life makes people uncomfortable, I get it. Here’s some common “I don’t know what to do with my hands” word vomit that you should really avoid saying. This post is marinated in some very pungent snark, so mind your toes. “You’ll get pregnant again.” And? My child died. There is no replacement. I hope and pray every single day we will get our rainbow, but[Read more]